Beginnings and Endings

I huddled against the window of the MRT car as it traveled easily along the rails and over the ever constant and sleepless traffic of Manila below.  I was leaving the laying-in clinic in Quazon behind after five busy days, where I tried hard to speak Tagalog during prenatals, help in the delivery room ect.  and soon (or in about four hours) I would leave the the giant city behind and be back in the less chaotic city of Tagaytay.  Despite the fact that as the crow flies Quazon and Tagaytay are not that far from each other, the world class bad traffic of the area and the fact I was traveling on a Saturday meant the trip would be close to 6 hours in total.  But as I watched the passing city streets, high rises, and homes made of tin and old cloth I couldn't help feeling a sense of pride that I was actually able to travel through this huge and very diverse city all on my own.  It shocked no one more than myself.  The country girl who grew up in the middle of nowhere, who vowed she would never live in the city and whom is known to have a poor sense of direction when it comes to any city, was actually becoming slightly familiar with the 18th biggest city in the world, and able to maneuver the public transportation it provided.   As the stops continued and the minutes ticked by I reflected further (since there is not much else to do) of all I had learned over the last five months and all I still needed to learn in this missionary life, and although life has found a new normalcy in it I also feel I need to pinch myself every once in awhile to really believe that I am truly here, being a full time missionary...a full time long term missionary with no end date in sight at this time.  Finally the city rail line came to its last stop, where I allowed myself to get swept along with the large crowd and made my way to the buses.  The type of bus that I was taking would take me out of Manila and back to Tagaytay but because it was Saturday the line up for the bus was massive! I waited nearly an hour before I got ushered into one of the buses and was very thankful I got a seat and wasn't stuffed into the isle to stand for the long bus ride.  By the time I arrived back in Tagaytay, I was incredibly exhausted but happy to be home....

Hello all! I hope you are doing well as you spring into spring, I hear its been a bit of a late winter in parts of Canada and the USA I know the appropriate response would be "I'm sorry," but the truth is I still think of cold weather with a longing, especially now that we are in our Filipino summer, a time of year I admit I don't really have a love for.  The Moilliet blood that runs in my veins contributes to the fact that I do not do very well in the heat, especially the intense tropical heat that feel like it want to kill whoever steps out in its rays of sun.  I have heard many people say "how do you handle it?" I always find this sort of humorous, as the answer to this is simple...there is no other choice.    However living in Tagaytay means the summer is much more mild than Manila or even Tabuk, the evenings are still cool and there is a breeze in the afternoon, which is just heaven.  Summer is also a great time for my favorite Filipino dessert, Halo-halo, which involves a lot of shaved ice, and as its name says (mix-mix) is filled with all sorts of stuff from fruit, condensed milk, ube, even corn and beans (not green).  I know, I know for the North Americans listening, you are thinking it sounds odd, but it is AMAZING and it has this wonderful cooling effect, on hot afternoons.  When I am grumpy from constantly being sticky and uncomfortable it has a way of calming my whole being.  Summer will also bring a school break for the girls, something they are in much need of.  They have been very busy with their assignments and classes and they deserve a good break from their long year.  I am a hoping to be able have some quality time with the girls over the school break.  Later in the summer (at the end of April) I am planning another trip to Kalinga, where I will attend a friend's wedding and be able to meet with the social worker who is interested in the future shelter in Tabuk.

The last few weeks have been very busy, which is good, as that is what I have been hoping for. I have been given some more responsibility at Safe including some of the handling of the money.   All the new responsibility has allowed me to learn lots in a very short time.

Ate Naomi. her husband Andy and their baby Andrew along with a friend, Maddie, all came out for 19 days, those days went by very fast!  It was so wonderful finally getting to meet Naomi.  As predicted she is a wonderful human being with a heart full of love and joy and eagerness to love everyone she meets.  We got to have some great talks and were able to connect and communicate about my future at safe and a little of the further future of Ellora and mine's dream to begin a shelter in Tabuk.  She spent lots of time encouraging me and I truly felt a happy heart as she made sure I knew that she was thankful I was here.


With Naomi's arrival we got to go on some outings, one was to these calming falls and pools right in the city where one can swim in the fresh clean water among the tropical trees.  It was so beautiful.  It was wonderful for Chesa for and Emma as they are both very good swimmers and since they struggle with doing many things other people can do being able to swim and even jump off the rocks above into the deep pool below brought absolute joy to them.  Some of the girls (usually the ones who have lived in Manila all their lives) didn't know how to swim and so stayed in the Shallow parts.  But Maddie and I taught two of them the basics so that by the end of the day they were able to swim a little on their own. ( though I must give full credit to Maddie here as she is an actual swimming teacher and very good at it, she had them grasping the concept pretty quick) The only problem was that it wasn't really a hot day (yes even the Philippines gets cool days) but we were all determined to swim anyway, but I think I got pretty chilled that day as the next day I came down with a horrid cold, and it took me almost a week to get over it.  But it was all worth it!!
    We also went to Taal Mountain! which is famous because...wait for it.. its the smallest known active volcano in the world.  And yes its an actual mountain!  it took us about an hour to hike.  At the very top one can see some steam coming out of certain pockets around the lake which is in the center of the mountain.  One of the ways they describe it is, an island within a lake, within an island within a lake.  Since there is a small lake within the crater lake and the mountain is on an island which is also in a lake.  They also treated us to pizza twice! which was amazing! and bought a brand new tv so we don't have to use lap tops when we want to watch movies, and we can watch news so I can see whats happening in the world.  We celebrated Valentines day, Ate Naomi made the day special for everyone, we made red pancakes for our afternoon snack, Kuya Andy gave out a candy rose to everyone, it made us all feel special. 
                                     
    one of our staff meetings (minus Ate Charisa) with Ate Naomi, ( she is in the back with her husband and son)

                                                Swimming in the falls

                            Fun photos on our outing (l-r) with Ate Red, ate Rosanna, Me, and and Charisa

                                                          About to get on the boat to cross the Lake to Taal mountain

          Taal Mountain                                                             At the crater of Taal

                                                 Valentine's day treats

Helping Emma with her Valentines project 

After Ate Naomi and her family left, I went to Quezon city for 5 days. (as mentioned above) One of the midwives was going out of town and the other midwife is on rest which left Jane, the live in midwife to handle everything.  So I arrived on a Monday evening to help for the week.  We had three births!! Two of them that night.  Finally we were actually a little busy while I was there, the last baby I got to help catch, which was great! I also did some prenatals on my own, which I was nervous about due to my poor Tagalog, but we managed! and on the day I had a lady come in who spoke very little English I had someone there to translate.  it feels good to be able to do prenatals as a midwife and not as a student and to be able to say "Midwife ako" (I am a Midwife). 
                                                         
                                                       The baby girl I helped catch right after I did her exam, judging from my appearance, one can tell, it was an early morning entrance

I have been making myself make connections outside of Safe Refuge.  It has taken me awhile to do this, as I would much rather just focus on the ministry and make that my whole life and not have other relationships to distract me.  But I know thats not really healthy, and I know I need to make friends outside the ministry.  It has happened Naturally in Quazon city where I am forming lots of friendships but I knew I needed some friendships in Tagaytay.  So I got connected with a girl named Aicah at church whom is only a few years my senior and we have started hanging out together, discussing spiritual things and such, and through her I have started meeting other young Christian ladies.  This has been really good and I feel God's hand in bringing these friendships about, and am very thankful for all these wonderful ladies.  I even attended an event at one of the churches I attend, which I would not have done if not for Aicah.  It was a sort of seminar on singleness.  I was a little worried it was going to be a match making thing, but it wasn't at all, it was really good, and some of the best teachings on singlehood for Christians that I have heard.  About learning to be content and satisfied in your signlehood but also some practical steps on maneuvering through early relationships.  After, Aicah and went out with some other singles and we ate Korean food and further discussed the subject, I felt so refreshed after and so thankful to be able to discuss a topic that is very real for us single Christian ladies.

Birthdays
I turned 27 on the 8th! my twenties are whizzing by and I know my thirties and forties will go even faster...which is a depressing thought but is also useless to dwell on it unless I remind myself its that much closer to Heaven.  (There is a reason for these thoughts which I will get to in a minute) Everyone at Safe made me feel very special.  I went to see the movie Captain Mavel with ate Rosanna, (a supporter of Safe and former staff member) and her daughter, the movie was so good!! I got that floaty happy feeling, which always tells me that all my senses enjoyed the feature.  In the evening Ate Rosanna had made two cakes, one for and one me and one for the other March birthday, Meggie.  So we ate cake, and this amazing Pasta!! I received birthday wishes (thank you facebook) from Canada, Spain, Japan, and the Philippines and I think the USA.  The next day I got calls from most of my siblings which was really wonderful!  Although Meggie celibrated her birthday with me, on her actual birthday, March 18th I wanted to do something special, so I made natchos, and Ate Charisa's friend was here at the time and she made a kind of meat role which so good!! she also bought some sparkling Welches grape juice.

 



 On March 10, which was March 9th in Canadian time, My grandpa, Richard Don Scruggs 93 who has been living with dementia for the last few years passed into Glory with my grandma and cousins by his side.

                                           One of the last pictures with my Grandpa

Although this was not unexpected and none of us (including him) felt he was taken before his time, it still brought many tears, to be honest much more than I expected.  Not because I didn't love him as much as a grand-daughter possibly could, but because I would much rather him be with His father in heaven, with a clear mind, and out of pain then suffering on earth.  I had also been preparing myself for this for years, with a very practical mindset, so I was surprised as how much I cried when I found out.  But I guess its because its always hard to say goodbye to someone, since we are not designed to say goodbye.  We are designed to be united forever in eternity.  And although there are teas of grief, there are also tears of joy and celebration of his beautiful life and beautiful legacy.  His funeral was live streamed on facebook and I logged in at 3:00 AM to watch it in real time where it was happening at 1 PM Alberta time.  I pretty much cried through the whole thing, I didn't even know I had more tears to shed.  Some of the tears were for the fact that I was crying as the only Moilliet/Scruggs in the country instead of being beside my family.  My older brother shared a memory for me though, which was special and made me feel close.  It was really special being able to watch it all in live time.  But watching the funeral brought on an intense amount of homesickness, I wanted to be there with everyone so badly, eating with them, laughing and crying together, sometimes homesickness can be so intense it takes your breath away, but I would not wish it away, because it is that feeling that makes me feel close to my family and my first home country.  So that as well as my birthday has brought on a lot of sentimental thought about time, hence the depressing note on how fast time goes by.


A few metionables; Some staff members and I completed a massive project.  We planned to make the office into a study room and book area, and move the office to where we will share the Beautiful Refuge shope.  We recently received a bunch of donated things from Naomi which we sorted and distributed as needed.  It took three days to make the switch! One day organizing the donated items, and making plans.  The following week we spent another day cleaning and further organizing items in both rooms,  The next day was our biggest day yet, we finished what we started on day two and moved furniture around, did more cleaning sorted books, threw things away, organized and so on.  In the end we donated three big boxes and some old books and I think there may have been some other begs, to the community.  It was a great way to share some of the blessings we receive. Last week I realized that Safe really needed another storage unit, so I decided I was going to donate one, I bought a tall sturdy metal rack for around 70 dollars and it has proved very helpful, especially in the final days of organizing.  Thanks to all my supporters who allowed me to have extra cash to pay for it.  I was so exhausted by the end of this project that I collapsed at a little after 4 PM on the final day. I woke up just before 5:30,  I dragged myself back over to Safe but was so tired I thought I would have to go back to bed.  But I woke up after doing some math flash cards with two of the kids.  I then handed out the school allowance for the next day, after supper Ate Red and I went out to buy some medicine for one of the residents, we left at around 8 PM almost didn't get the medicine as the first drug store we went to were out of stock for one type and said we would have to go to the other branch which closed in a few minute.  Frantically we grabbed a tricy which took us to the mall, it seemed the tricy drover over charged us but we were in such a hurry there was no time to argue, we ran through the mall and made it the drug store just in time! We got back a little after 9 PM and I recorded all the expenses which took me to about 10 PM,  When I finally made it to bed that night. I fell asleep in minutes.


                   Cleaning and sorting, final product of study room seen below with the new rack

            

    

                                                                                           

 One of ate Carissa's friends was here for a few days, she taught a poetry workshop, it was very moving and helped the girls to open up.  Many of them are clearly natural poets.  I took part as well, and I realized how much I love poetry and was happy to be able to learn and practice more.  I haven't written a poem in awhile and it felt good.

PJ is doing well! Growing well, though when I was away for 5 days I was told he barely ate and it was clear he had lost weight.  I am hoping the next time I go away he won't get so depressed.  He really gives me a lot of of Joy and I am always so thankful that God brought Him to my door, he is proving to be a great comfort when I am feeling sad or homesick.  There is something so very therapeutic about animals.

Baking continues to be a hit!!

The other week ate Hermy took my to People's Park, it shows an amazing view of the whole city!

A friend of ate Rosanna gave a bunch of strawberry plants which we transplanted in our little backyard

Language update
Language is still much slower than I would like, but there is improvement especially when I stop to realize that I can start forming my own sentences now that actually make sense, which is very exciting.  I am still having a hard time following someone who is speaking straight Tagalog (as apposed to Taglish, which is an actual thing).  Although I am able to pick up some sentences and words if I focus really hard I find it hard to put it all together in time to keep up with the speaker.  Other times it seems no matter how hard I focus I can't seen to make sense of anything.  As I mentioned above going to the clinic helps my Tagalog a lot.  It forces me to speak Tagalog and to decipher it, but by the end of the last 5 days I  was there I was so exhausted from Speaking and trying to listen that when I was in the line up to the buses on my way home I went to buy a beg of chips and Sprite and tried to get out the work Magkaano ("how much" in Tagalog) but the word that came out was "Mano" ("how much" in Ilocano) I scrambled to try and correct myself back to Tagalog but the lady exclaimed "Oh Ilocano"
"You are Ilocano?" I asked
"Yes" she answered and I was so relieved, even though I think my Tagalog is now more than my Ilocano  (although I think I still know more birth language in Ilocano) there are many words that I am more comfortable with and used so often in Tabuk that I always resort to those.   I have had many moments where I cannot get the English words out Or find the right vocabulary for Tagalog the result is that I sometimes go mute when I need to answer someone. Last night someone asked me a question and the English words all bumped into each other.  So instead I took a deep breath and formed a very ill grammar-ed sentence of Tagalog to explain.  So I figured that's a good sign :)

So, that's some of the highlights from the last several weeks.
\as far as the internal things...

I am surprised at how much I feel I have grown and learned in the last 5 months.  And the last few weeks as mentioned already have been a lot busier,  I feel that my confidence and assertiveness is increasing, I realized that this is something that must increase for work in the mission field.  God has been teaching me a lot and the learning process happening at Safe is massive.  I have mixed emotions about the increased business, I love that my days feel fuller and I feel that I am really becoming a part of things but I sometimes I feel its harder to spend more time with the girls, I haven't even really been able to go running with them at the jogging oval, which was something I had more freedom to do before. I am hoping that as these weeks of transition into my new role settle down, it will be easier. 
There are always lots of emotions in this ministry, and the adjustment process is on-gonig, Though I do feel I am adjusting much faster than I did in Tabuk, which makes sense as this is my second go at Missions in the Philippines.  But there are still lots of ups and downs.  Also, the approaching month is the time of year my homesickness goes up several notches, April is our lambing season at home, and is my favorite time of year, Sometimes I miss home more during this time than Christmas.  In Tabuk  it was helpful having Babies to deliver to distract me, allowing myself to take pleasure in that I could at least still be around birth, but I won't have any babies to deliver in April as I have no plans to go to the clinic until May.  However with Summer and increased activities with the girls I will probably be busy enough to at least be a little distracted.   But God is good and He gives me strength, His Faithfulness is constant and ever true.

As a whole I think things are going very well, I really love these girls and love this ministry and know this is where God wants me to be. 

Well, Its time to bring this very long post to a close and go over prayer requests and thank you's.



Thank you
-For God's sustenance
-For new relationships
-For the new learning curves

Requests
-Language
-Wisdom
-Boldness
-Still praying for a new computer
-Patience

As always thank you all for your prayers and support! and remember you can always follow Safe refuge on facebook or instagram, where you will get daily updates and pictures.
 Signing off
thesheepishmidwife

Holidays, babies, a New Year and lots of cookies!!!

Hello again!
its been awhile I had hoped to get a blog post up before the new years to fill everyone in on a Christmas at Safe, but the time I was allotting for computer work was all going to finishing my yearly financial report, which is still in progress, though I am down to adding and moving totals around now,  I started this blog post while working at Daughters of Faith Lying-in, in Manila and had given up working on my finances as I was trying to add numbers past 4 PM and I was starting to put totals into my calculater instead of my spread sheet.  me and numbers only really get along in the morning right after I have had coffee.  Anyway, I am now well overdue to post this blog update so here it goes...

Oh baby!
I finally got to get in on a birth shortly before I left Daughters of Faith lying -in  in December, it was so nice to be around birth again but I was disappointed no other babies wanted to say hi while I was there, of course after I packed my beg and got ready to leave the labouring mamas started coming in, I considered unpacking my beg and staying an extra day, but I really felt it was time for me to return to Safe, it was hard to leave my new friends here in Quazon.  I really enjoy everyone at the clinic and the surrounding ministry, the live in Midwife and I get along really well, and its so nice to just be able to talk about midwifery things.  But I said goodbye with promises to return soon.  I then proceeded to take a tricy, jeep, MRT and bus all through Manila and back to Tagaytay all on my own, during rush hour I might add, I was pretty proud of this fact as you might be able to tell....

Anyway I was glad I did return when I did because the holidays business started right away, ....

Parties, baking and more!
The day after I arrived home I attended a class Christmas party for one of the elementary girls and went with her mom.   In the following days I went shopping for baking supplies, purchased an oven rack (the new oven only came with one rack) this was a half day ordeal as we had to travel 45 minutes by bus to get it.  On another day we had a whole afternoon full of baking!! we made ginger bread cookies and sugar cookies, I never did count them all but the three tables we had out were completely covered in cookies, I also lost count of how many people and kids helped, I taught several people how to roll out ginger bread  and how to cut the shapes,  I didn't do any of the decorating of the cookies as it was a full time job helping kids share the icing tool (in our case small plastic begs with a hole cut in them,) refilling icing decorators making a fresh batch and shuttling the iced cookies to the freezer and fridge to harden the icing before they could be stacked into a plastic container, the thing with baking in a hot country is that things like icing don't harden like it would in Canada ( even in a heated Canadian house) rather it melts, hence why each decorated cookies had to be put in the freezer on a plate before it could be stacked and stored.  It was a very exhausting but happy day, the next day we had visitors come from a ministry whom wanted to bless Safe, we offered them the cookies that were made the day before, the girls performed the dance we had been working on, and the visitors gave out gifts.

That evening was our Christmas party, so the house was full!! all of the staff and all of the residents were present.  there was much cooking, a Karioki machine was rented for the occasion, we played games, ate, and exchanged our secret Santa gifts, I received a new bed sheet and pillow cases, which I had just said to myself the other day "I wish I had an extra bed sheet," and tada!

There was more baking in the following week! Christmas eve resulted in baking butter tarts and short bread, two of my favorite Christmas treats!  that evening I showed everyone a video of the Christmas story in the form of a Children's play performed by the Vavenby Christian Church Sunday school back in 1979 re-vamped by my older brother a few years ago.  We then had a candle light ceremony where we incorporated one of my family traditions.... lighting a candle and speaking a promise for the following year everyone also spoke a thanksgiving.  It was pretty moving to watch the room slowly shine with candle light as everyone lit their wick and seeing a tradition that I had practiced all my life fit into my additional family at Safe.  We finished by singing Christmas carols.
As par Philippine tradition we all stayed up until Midnight to eat in Christmas day, no that is not a typo.  The tradition is that you eat a large meal at midnight Christmas morning.   My contribution was a massive pot of mashed potatoes.  Potatoes are not cheap in the Philippines so its not an item we eat often at Safe, but I splurged and bought 5 kilos worth,  We had delicious gravy made from the chicken juices that were cooked by Ate Mercy, she boiled them in Sprite before they were roasted, it was so good and the sprite made some seriously tasty gravy.

It was pretty late..or early by the time the dishes were done and the girls were settled in their rooms for the night, I then helped the staff unpack the gifts.  There had been several boxes of donations that had arrived over the weeks leading up to December that had been wrapped by the staff, as well as some brand new toys and some other fun gifts for the girls.  I think it was around 2 AM when I finally fell into bed.  Everyone was up at 6 AM despite it all though, I slept in a little later and walked over to Safe around 7, W had breakfast and then I led out in Communion,  after this, everyone took turns un-wrapping their gifts, everyone got one practical gift of donated clothes and one fun gift, Everyone exclaimed over each gift and there were many many thankful hearts.  After gifts I served Hot chocolate made from  scratch and brought out the short bread.   Sometime after this I escaped to have a small rest, and in the afternoon we (the adults) crowded around my laptop and watched the movie Bird Box, later we put something on for the kids.  Christmas day is the day that Emma celibrates her birthday (she does not know her actual date of birth or her exact age) we were originally planning to celebrate on a later date with the other December birthday but one of the former staff members came to celibate Christmas with us and she went out and bought a beautiful cake and furnishings for a massive salad to celebrate Emma.   Emma was so pleased by this, it was written all over her face.   I was so excited about the salad as this is not a common thing in the Philippines, We all pulled together and created the massive deliciousness, and then consumed the mixture of fresh lettuce, grated carrots, apples red pepper and all sorts of fun stuff, we even had ranch dressing.  Tea and Butter tarts topped off the evening.

                                                 Christmas Communion, grape juice and flat bread spread with butter honey, to represent the sweetness and great price (honey being very expensive) of the sacrifice of the cross

                                                   butter tarts and tea

The rest of the holidays kind of went by in a blur...I made a cake for the other birthday girl in December! that was a lot of fun as I made my first ever Ube Cake! which turned out pretty well, our little girls was giddy the whole evening, basking in the love she received.

News Years eve resulted in more food!! and another late night, I made pizza for the meal at midnight. we even managed to see some fireworks.

It was a busy few weeks of holidays but I enjoyed it, at one point the staff did have to tell me to take a day off to which I eventually agreed.  I have realized that I do need to take one full day off a week, I was often feeling guilty about it, figuring I wasn't really working hard enough to warrent a day off, but I noticed that if I didn't take a day of complete rest I started getting more irritated  and my nerves begin to get raw at every little thing.  so I have been better at being consistent with my offs, when I do take them I usually strive to hide from the world as much as possible, as I often just desire to have a day with as few people around me as possible.

One to ones
One of the things that caused me to be busy over the holidays and into January was that I started taking each of the girls out for some one to one time, sometimes it was coffee, sometimes it was a snack at a fast food place, once it was tea and pastry.  The idea was just to build relationship and be a listening ear if they needed it.  For awhile I was feeling discouraged that not many of them were opening up, but I reminded myself its not really normal to open up to someone you have only known for a few months, especially when there is still language barriers.  But one day, very unexpected and unplanned one of them started opening up, not a lot but enough to make me realize she trusted me enough to do so and be reminded I am not  completely useless :)  Another girl told me while we were both working in the kitchen that she will miss me when I am gone, I assured her i wasn't going anywhere yet, but I was comforted that these relationships are building, as there is no way I can help anyone if there is no relationship.
                                               
                                                taking the kids out for ice cream

                                                     hanging out and burgers

                                                           Christmas Barbecuing

So I have been slowly finding my place in the month of January.  Every day is different but there is some routines beginning to form.  Hanging out with the girls when they get back from school, playing with the kids, working on my financial report (which is almost done!) and continuing to be whatever Safe needs me to be, Oh and there was another massive birthday celebration in January, another five birthday cakes! this time it was Carrot Cake with cream cheese icing, three chocolate layer cakes two with Ube filling, and one Banana Ube cake with chocolate icing (Ube is like a purple sweet potato which is often put into desserts here)

My box from Canada finally arrived!! I want to thank everyone so, so, so much for this wonderful gift, I was amazed how much stuff fit in there, so we had a second Christmas in the middle of January!  Some other late Christmas gifts also arrived around the same time so we had an evening of handing out gifts, the girls loved the jewelry and scarves that were given, the kids loved their stuffed animals and the books brought lots of excitement!  I shared the beautiful Christmas pudding that arrived from my aunt and it was a hit! I have been relishing the chocolate and coffee and all the little luxuries that arrived and am saving the the hucklberry jam and canned milk (the canned milk here is not pure) almost afraid to use it.  I know so many people contributed to this box and I want to thank you for every little thing that was carefully placed and given.  I felt overwhelmed with love...
                                             
                                                a pop up book from Canada brought some excitment

                                                 the girls say "thank you!"

                                                        amazing Christmas pudding!! almost brought tears to me eyes

As indicated at the beginning of this post, near the end of January I headed back to Quazon city to spend 11 days at the clinic again.  I was sure that statistics would be on my side this time and that I would get in on several births….not so much, although I got to do some prenatals I only got to assist at one birth since only one baby was born during that time.  No question God is teaching me about patience and how I have no control over anything.  But I enjoyed my time there, got some reading done, worked finances and this blog post and did get to do some midwifery things.  Now I am back in Tagaytay, we have a new missionary, well actually she has been here before but has returned for a 6 month stint, staying at Safe for half the week. she is from the US and is a great gal I think we are going to get along really well.  Naomi the international leader and co-founder of Safe will be arriving sometime today with her husband and baby boy and will be here for three weeks

Church

I discovered that there is a Church of Christ (same community of churches as I grew up in) basically next door, I visited there with a friend and really did enjoy it, especially taking communion, I really miss taking communion  every week.    I have decided that I am going to try and go to both churches and rotate each week, one week at Victory church with the girls (as I do enjoy the church there and the fellowship of going with the girls) and then the next week going to the Church of Christ.  We will see how this pans out, but I like the idea of being plugged in at both churches and will at least give it a try for a time.  

Language
I have had two language lessons so far, they were brief but very beneficial, I have also t noticed that going to the birthing clinic has helped my language skills, as I am forced to use it in the clinic setting and it just gives a different perspective and environment

Adjusting
Someone just asked me the other week how I was adjusting to living here, and I could tell they were truly interested.  I have a hard time answering this question I always think I am going to give a really good answer but every time I try, it never feels like I hit the mark.  I realize this is because I am unable to put the emotions of adjusting into words.  Its possible it would have been easier if I was in  Kalinga as there is a lot of familiarity in that culture whether living in Tagaytay involves a lot of new things.  But I also think its more than just culture, as I find that if I take the culture by itself I don't feel like there is a lot of struggle. I do like the the Filipino culture but I think its more that some days I miss the Aveley Ranch-Vavenby-Canadian culture, and some days I am simply homesick, sometimes the homesickness pain is incredibly intense, and if you recall from my blog posts when I was in Canada I was intensely homesick for the Philippines.  It truly does seem that no matter where I am in the worlds it seems I am missing some place.  But I think overall the biggest adjustment is just that this is a different kind of life than I know, its different than life as a student, life on a sheep ranch or a life delivering babies.  These past lifes had very clear results, growing crops, healthy babies and mommies, where I don't always see results on daily bases in this ministry.  I also find myself sometimes craving to have someone tell me what to do on a daily basses, when to come to work, when to leave, what assignments I have to do and what deadline I need to meet.  Instead I am the one that often needs to make these kinds of decisions.  That's not to say that the staff don't ask me to do things, but my daily routine and decisions involved with my life at Safe, time with the girls, activities, when I go to the lying in clinic ect. are all things I am needing to coordinate.  This is where I am thankful for my homechooling background as it helped to prepare me for this kind of thing, self learning and self organizing.  But that doesn't mean its not tiring at tiems.  I have alwasy been someone who naturally follows rather than leads.   Sp what I am trying to say involving adjustment? its hard, and challenging but I also know adjustment needs to happen, in the same way that parts on a car need to be adjusted, its a necessary part of life and eventually the adjusting part is complete and one is adjusted.  I really love these girls and really love spending time with them, talking with them and learning from them.  Lately God has been reminding to be Faithful and to feed his lambs.  I am glad the adjustment part id hard, if it wasn't I would have no reason to cry out to God, or to learn and grow. 
                                                 dance practice

                                                           Meggie baked her first pie, she wanted to learn to make egg pie (custard pie) so I read the recipe and help guide her while turned into this beautiful creation!

                                                           Meggie and I at the jogging oval, I have started going a few times a week and will take some of the girls with me.

                                                 
                                            Playing music together

Thankfulness
-For everything that I am learning
-For the progress (as small as it is) in the language
-For God's provision for myself but also for Safe
-For the new Christian friends I have been able to make

Prayers
-Chesa is still having says where she is having seizures, please pray for complete healing, she is very thankful for all your prayers so far,
-For the adjustment process
-Language
-For my missionary visa, which is taking forever to go through!!

As always thank you all for your prayers and support
God Bless you all
thesheepishmidwife

A Noteworthy November and near half of December

November is now behind us, and it was quite a month... and December is already almost half way over and I imagine you are all getting ready for the holidays, shopping, decorating and I imagine the Christmas music is playing everywhere....

So lets start with my trip to Kalinga....
I made sure I kept my eyes open as the bus got closer and closer to the place I called home for 2.5 years of my life.  I had been a bundle of nerves the days leading up to my departure, I was never able to fully put my finger on why, I think I was nervous about how it would feel after being away for almost two years, especially with new people there now, and other students sleeping and studying in the rooms where I used too.

Because of this nervousness I welcomed the 11 hour night bus ride from Manila to Tabuk, in order to calm myself down before I arrived.  The trip went by fast though, I slept well, I find it interesting that I sleep better on buses than I do on planes, I think its because planes are too smooth, the rocking of the bus sort of lulls me to sleep.   anyway I digress.  The last time I woke up on the bus, dawn was just breaking and I realized that I recognized the landscape around me and that I was nearing Tabuk,  the rolling green hills and open rice fields filled my heart with excitement.  As the bus entered Tabuk, I felt like I was coming home. 

When I got into the tricy the words "Abundant, Magsaysay" rolled off my tongue as if I had never stopped saying it.  (this is what we say to the tricy drivers to tell them where we need to go to get back to the clinic).  I was staying with one of the supervisor midwives who lives right next to the clinic, when I arrived she greeted me, we squealed as girlfriend often do when they haven't seen each other in a long time and then she fed me breakfast.  Later that morning I I got to help with a prenatal on one of my old patients who is now pregnant with her second child, that was really special.
                                                   
                                                     my former patient

                                                           I caught this guy over two years ago!

I wont go into the day to day details but I will say that it did not feel that strange to see other students living and working where I had before them, one of them even asked me if it felt weird and I could honestly reply that it didn't.  I had some great times with the students them really enjoyed the conversations we had.

The wedding in Bugnay was wonderful.  Two of the bridesmaids (whom I knew) and one of the previous students/current volunteer midwife and I all stayed together in Bugnay in a house belonging to a family member of the maid of honor (also a good friend).  We had a lot of fun and laughter.  Although I wasn't a bridesmaid I did have a title, I and another guy (whom I also knew) were responsible for the cord. Unfortunately I have no photos of me performing the task.
                                                     
                                                         some of the bridesmaid and I

picture with the bride (the one on the middle) a few days after the wedding 

Does anyone know how to do the cord?
The cord is one of the symbols performed during wedding ceremonies here, its actually really cool, a soft rope is placed around the shoulders of the couple as a symbol of their union.  I felt honored that I got to help perform this task but also nervous as I had never done it before, and hadn't really seen it before, only once several years before.  One thing I was happy about was as I mentioned before I knew who my partner was (there are two cord people, one guy to put the cord around the groom and one girl to put the cord around the bride) he is like a younger brother so I felt comfortable knowing I wouldn't be partnered with a stranger.
I hoped rather than believed there would be a rehearsal.  I had asked several people how it was done I was meant mostly with "I'm not sure." But I was assured that when we arrived in Bugnay there would be a rehearsal later that night before the wedding the following morning.   But first there was the Desperatose (not sure if I am spelling that right) which is a party that takes place the night before the wedding, it involves lots of dancing, most of which is the cultural dancing with the gongs, which is one of my favorite types of dancing of all time the men playing all types of gongs in perfect timing with each other as they dance in a circle, the women dance within the circle using certain footwork and arm motions, the men and women never touch.  Anyway this party is a way to raise money for the bride and groom and the men will donate money to dance with the girls...or somethings like that.  Anyway this took up the whole night so there was no rehearsal that night, but I was told the next morning that there would be one before the ceremony, but of course the women were late (not the bride she was on time) .  So there was no rehearsal that morning either.  So I figured I wouldn't panic after all, all I had to do was follow Eugene's example (my cord partner.  When the wedding party gathered above the wedding grounds I met up with him and told him I was depending on him to know what to do.  He gave me a nervous look and replied "I've never done this before either". so he started asking people if they knew how to do it, But was met with mostly the same response as I had.  One other person tried to give him a crash course in it,  so I just hoped for the best!

Eugene and i walked down the isle together, but i wasn't really sure where to go as we walked down before the bridesmaids and groomsmen and Eugene looked as unsure as I did, so I just grabbed his arm and started walking, but as soon as we got to the end neither of us knew where we were supposed to go, we looked at each other, I looked at the pastor, I even looked at Georgia, earlier she was the one tried to correct the pastor when he got my name wrong coming down the isle.  She was near the front as one of the sponsors, she shrugged. Then I looked back and realized the usherettes were awkwardly motioning to a bunch of empty seats in the back.  By this time Bridesmaids and groomsmen had followed our lead and the isle was starting to get full,  so I couldn't turn back! frantically several men started pulling the empty chairs up to the front so the women could sit while the men looped back around to sit in the back.  In the end in all worked out, but trust me to go and walk to the wrong place!

While sitting during the ceremony, Kattao, the maid of honor  casually helped me unwind the cord that I had been carrying this whole time, she discreetly tied it into a loop and silently showed me how it went on.  This was a Godsend as I realize I totally would have messed it up if she hadn't showed me.  so when it came time for Eugene and I to place the cord, we did it flawlessly! I think we both breathed a sigh of relief.

                                                   
                                            picture of the "the cord team" before the ceremony

Being in Tabuk and Bugnay was emotional, because I remember when I left there for the last time, even though I was pretty sure I meant to come back, a part of me wasn't sure or maybe was afraid that I wouldn't make it back.  I also went through a lot of emotions in the last year and debated if returning to the Philippines was the right move.  So when I saw Kalinga again, I could feel my senses respond with an element of disbelief that I was actually back but also with a sense of rightness.
                                                   
                                                          Bugnay

While in Tabuk I met up with Kate, one of the social workers who worked at Abundant while I was there.  The last words she had said to me before I left Tabuk over 1.5 years ago was "Come back." This time when we talked I told her after working with safe Ellora and I wanted to start a ministry like Safe in another part of the Philippines. 

Now Ellora and I have actually been planning to go to Tabuk to start the ministry there but I had been having doubts about whether this was the right thing to do, things like 'isn't there greater needs in other places?' or 'do I just want to return there because i miss it?' But while Kate and I talked, she told be about the needs in Kalinga; how there is no place for girls or women to go to who are trapped in abuse, and she asked me to "Consider coming back here" I knew right there and then that God could not make it anymore clear, After Safe Tagaytay, Tabuk was the next stop.

When I left Kalinga, I felt sad, although I knew it was time for me to return, my heart felt grieved.  This may be for two reasons, one is that it feels like home, so it felt like leaving home, another is that my heart is still there, planted like rice in the fields.

I arrived back in Manila at 4 AM, I had a brief rest at Safe in Manila and then I met up with Ate Red to go to a seminar called Freedom Forum.  It is a seminar that happens every three years where NGO's (non government organizations) come from all over the Philippines to join forces in fighting against sex trafficking in the Philippines.  This year the theme was about online sexual exploitation of children or OSEC . This is a major issue in the Philippines right now, as there is no age limit on who is affected by this, they gave one example of a child as young as 2 months old being exploited.   There were several speakers of different denominations and workshops as well. It was a very full day.  We were able to do some networking as well.  It was an incredibly powerful thing to have Catholics, Anglicans, Nazarenes, and a large variety of others all in one room, praying together and uniting as one to end sex trafficking in the Philippines.
                                             
                                                Some of the staff and I at freedom Forum

The next day Ate Red and I went to visit ate Gerlene; a Midwife who has a clinic in Quazon city,.   Since I am not currently doing midwife work at Safe I am eager to keep up my midwife skills and continue to learn as much as possible, so I have been looking for a clinic that would allow me to pop in every once in while to get get some experience.  We met Gerlene at a mall in Quazon and she took us to the clinic where I met the other two midwives who work there, one of which works only part time, she is a Canadian Missionary and she and her family have been in Manila for years.  After giving me the tour and I shared a little of my story I kept waiting for them to ask me some more questions.  But Ate Gerlene just looked at me clasped her hands together and said "so when do you want to start?"

We decided on a week in early December, which is actually this week!  Yes, I am at the birthing clinic right now and have been loving being able to wear scrubs again, do some prenatals and talk to midwives about midwifery things, unfortunately despite the fact there are 16 moms due this month, no babies have felt it the right time to enter the world this week, so it is has been rather quite, the staff and I are getting a little bored honestly, the up side is that I have time to finish my blog, start my newsletter, catch up on some reading, including starting and finishing "A Christmas Carol," and doing some other writing.  I will probably add a few days to the weeks in hopes of getting in on some births, before I head back to Tagaytay. 

Homecoming and Blessings
But I have gotten ahead of myself, anyway after I made my first visit to the clinic in November
I was very happy to return to Tagaytay, and all the girls at Safe.   I find that a really good way to help establish ones new home is to take a trip away from it for a little while because then when you come back you are able to say "I'm coming home," and there is comfort in that.  I was happliy greeted by everyone and happily greeted them.  I picked up PJ later that afternoon from my friend who was kitty sitting for me, he had gotten bigger and was now eating solid food, thank goodness! no more middle of the night bottle feedings.  I had actually really missed him and was happy to have him in my house again.

PJ was a little sick however after I brought him home but a few trips to the vet and a good de-worming process did the trick.  I am so happy that he is also now litterbox trained!  The other day I was thinking as I was having my morning coffee an devotional time, and I was contemplating the idea of whether or not God really did send the abandoned street kitten to my doorstep.  I thought about how when I was little I had always wanted a kitten, we had some wild barn cats at one time, a mama cat who had a litter of kittens in the hay, but one day had vanished with them, it was almost pathetic how grieved I had been over this.  I remembered how every time my family would drive through a tunnel and my siblings and I would hold our breath and make a wish, I would alwasy wish for a kitten. In my adulthood I sometimes still do it for fun and out of habit I will still wish for a kitten. Once my parents let my brother and I get two barn kittens but they met their demise from some of our large sheep dogs, I remember weeping when I heard the news.   When I was little a prayer for kitten would find its way into my nightly prayers if I remember correctly.  As I recalled this the other day I was struck with the thought that God honors the simple desires of our hearts sometimes it just happens when we are least expecting it.

                                                 just hanging on the couch
one of PJ's favorite spots 

                                                        Noel loves PJ!

Additions to the Kalinga plan
The other week I found something out that adds to the "Kalinga plan" turns out there is a Christian social worker and pastor whom is well known among people at the clinic in Tabuk  who is also interested in starting a ministry like Safe Refuge in Tabuk, she has been talking to ate Red for some time.  the next time I visit Kalinga we are planning to meet.  Both Ellora agreed that we don't want to start anything unless we have support from locals, and we also know we had to have social workers on board.  So having this woman suddenly appearing right after I said to God "Okay I'll do it," was pretty amazing.  I am not putting all my eggs in a basket yet, but I can see God beginning to bring the plan together.

Language
I've got good news and bad news.  The bad news is I'm not fluent yet! ok so maybe it would be a little surprising if a person was fluent after 3 months but I know I had gotten further with Spanish in three months so I was hoping I would have been further along.  The good news is that I can string sentences together now, the girls are saying that my Tagalag is good, and that I am a fast leaner, although I am not sure about that, I have never been a fast learner at anything academic, and Tagalog doesn't feel any different.  But its encouraging to hear them say that nonetheless.  When I was in Tabuk I realized how well I was doing with Taglaog compared to how I did with Illocano.  This is not because Tagalog is easier than Illocano, I mentioned before that I actually think the opposite, but I realize how much more I am pushing myself this time round.  Although I wanted to learn Illocano badly and I did learn a fair bit of birth terminology (something I have not mastered with Tagalog yet) at some point I became discouraged and gave up on being able to learn any more Illocano, it was easier to speak to English and I think I was afraid to to speak Illocano in my day to day life.   However when I've been learning Tagalog I have been making myself insert Filipino words into my English sentences.   My fear of giving up learning the language is now far greater than whether or not someone will understand my Tagalog or not.  I have tried starting to teach myself more Tagalog by using Youtube.  But I have also come to the conclusion I need some formal lessons.  When I first arrived I had decided against this, and for a time I think it was good to just be around the language and get used to the feel of the language, but now I can see that I need more than that.   I discussed this with ate Red the other evening and we both agreed this is something that should happen.  Turns out one of the residents is actually going to give me lessons for now, she is a fourth year college student and is incredible in English and Tagalog, both in writing, speaking and interpreting, and part of her degree includes teaching. 

Spiritual growth
God has been so good, He is always good, but I have been overwhelmed with feeling the goodness lately.  I am learning so much and have felt myself drawing closer to God during these last few months.  He continues to provide for me, beyond what I imagined, and continues to lead.   I am learning to trust in my instincts and not overthink everything, (I still have a long ways to go in that department), this is something that I have always struggled with, but I had an incident the other day which showed me that maybe I  am beginning to learn to get over this.  I was at the clinic in Tabuk and was doing a first time prenatal which sadly ended with the realization that the woman was not pregnant.  before she left I got up and gave her hug.  This is something I would usually overthink, specifically in Tabuk, I would usually start thinking if she would receive a hug, I would wonder if I had seen many Kalingans hug before, was it culturally appropriate? but instead of thinking all this I just acted, I think I surprised myself as much as anyone.   It was as I was doing it and after I began to think all those things, I hope it was appropriate in hindsight.  But something I have noticed in the last few years is that in the things that matter often my first instinct is the right one but I overthink it before I can act and then miss the opportunity.

Some other randoms
We are still working on the dance project.  actually I can't remember if I mentioned before but another lady who helps out at Safe and myself are working on a project involving interpretive dance and plan to make it into a testimonial video.  We had our third practice last Sunday, and its really coming along, hopefully soon we will be ready to complete the project and begin filming.

Baking, baking and more baking! We had our celebration for all the November birthday the other day,  5 birthdays means I was determined to make 5 birthday cakes.  it all added up to about 5 hours of baking.  but it was a lot of fun and totally worth it to see how it made everyone so happy.  One of the things I love about the Filipino culture is if you make make 1 cake for 25 people, (something that would be received with shock in North America)  it will be enough but if you make 5 cakes for 25 people there will be no problem in having them consumed.  There was definitely some sugar rushing happening that night!  Speaking of which the new oven/stove has arrived! it was received with loads of thankfulness! and I thank everyone who contributed to this wonderful gift, I know that this was a sacrifice for many people and I want you to know that it is being well used, and is works very well.  The oven did a great job at baking all those cakes, and we can now fit more than one pot on the stove!!!
                                             Noellle's first birthday at Safe, ( we celebrated right before i left for Kalinga) so I made sure to make a special cake for her...I splurged and bought whipping cream to put between the layers.   when we sang happy birthday to her, she was holding back tears.

                                                 5 women, 5 birthday cakes.  Notice Chesa is in this photo!

                                                for American thanksgiving the little girls helped bake...

                                            ....pumpkin pies (squash pies)

                                               the arrival of the new stove/oven

                                             

Finding my place.

I think I have mentioned before I am still working on finding my role at Safe.  Sometimes I get discouraged feeling like I am not doing enough and need to be making more of a difference, and not being fluent in the language is a real challenge.  But this last Sunday I had an emotional time during the worship, and felt God reminding me I am where I supposed to be.  The other night I went to bed thinking about my experience with sheep.  I love sheep, and have sometimes asked God why He would allow me to fall in love with sheep ranching so much and then take me away from it, the answer had been something like what Jesus said to Peter when He told him he would make him a fisher of men, except for me it was more of a shepherd of men.  I have had dreams which I truly feel came from God involving comparisons to leading and tending sheep to tending God's lambs.   So this night I felt a question enter my mind, "how do you take care of and lead sheep?".  The answer to this would be, tending them, helping them have and raise their young, physically taking care of them but also in order for one to be able to shepherd well you must know your sheep.  One can learn some technical things from books, but to know your own flock the only way to do this is to spend time with them, love them, and learn to know them and their attitudes which cause you to understand them.  It occurred to me that this is exactly what God has be doing presently at Safe.

                                                  having tea with one of the girls at my place

This December
So far the only thing I have really done this December is sit in the clinic waiting for births, (in the clinic in Quazon) but I did get to go to a kids Christmas party here last night and that was fun.  actually I have really been enjoying meeting the new people who are connected with the clinic and the ministry that Ate Eve (the Canadian midwife) and her family are involved with.  When I return to Tagaytay, there will be more Christmas prep, I am hoping to have a day of baking with some of the girls, there will be some Christmas shopping and wrapping and lots of time together.  I am really looking forward to that!

I am definitely missing my Canadian home a lot this time of year, especially as December rolls in, But I don't mind missing home, it allows me to reflect on family Christmases gone by which always bring fondness to my heart, the homesickness is always connected to love.

Chesa
Chesa is home at Safe! thank you everyone so much for your prayers, she is doing really well! she has had a few brief seizures, so she still needs prayer.  The cause of her seizures is complicated and we believe its more than just medical, but her medication is keeping her stable right now.  She has been very happy and keeping busy which she loves.

Prayer and thankfulness 
Thankfulness 
-That Chesa is back and doing well
-For God's provision
-For God'leading
-That I get to be here at the clinic (Daughters of Faith Lying in)
-That my relationships are continuing to build with the girls and for the love I have for them
Prayer
-For Chesa's continual healing
-Ate Red is still having problems with her nasal ways, she has not been able to go to a doctor yet
-That I will get to be involved with some births before I go back to Tagaytay
-One of our residents will be visiting some family over Christmas, so please pray for her safety
-Language
-Trust in God


Well that's all for this round folks! as always thank you so much for your support! (and bearing through this very long blog with lots of spelling and grammar mistakes)I will try and write again before all the holidays are over, and will let you know if there were any births while here at the clinic.  Until then I hope you all have wonderful December and a Merry Christmas!
signing off,
thesheepishmidwife

Settling in

Greetings from Tagaytay!
I can't believe its been 6 weeks already since I've arrived! its true that the older you get the faster time goes...

the last six weeks have been interesting, challenging, frustrating, but also really good :) I feel more mentally exhausted than anything, which I think mostly has to do with the adjustment to a new life.  I have titled this blog settling in, and I do feel myself settling, I feel more at home in my little house and more comfortable in Safe. But I  have a feeling it will still take many months to feel completely at home and settled.   When I lived in Tabuk, I remember the 1.5 year was significant, I started to really feel like Kalinga was home at that point, when I came back to Canada, it was about a year and half (right before I left) that I felt settled back in Canada.  So its possible it will take that long for me to truly feel settled again.  Though I can feel myself adjusting to some things faster than before, for example the food.  The other day I was still hungry after supper and so I started eating the leftover rice with soya sauce, salt and oil, I impressed the girls so much by how Filipino I was that one of the leaders snapped a picture.  Although I admit I have had many days I crave Canadian food so much it makes me want to cry, but fortunately I live in a place where its really easy to satisfy that craving, and I can feel my body adjusted more each day to the new diet.  I am settling into living on my own much easier than I expected, i thought it would feel weird and I would get freaked out at night, but I totally love it! I think having my own place plays a big role in keeping me going.  And I feel so safe.  I am just a few feet from my land lady's house, whom is a very sweet lady, and the gates are tall and secure.  I think I only really had one night early on where the wind played tricks on me and I was really nervous, but I also think I was having a spiritual attack that night   Because I am at Safe so much I really enjoy the solitude in the evenings and mornings, although I don't have complete solitude right now, but I'll get to that, for now lets update you on the important stuff.

Safe Refuge
I think I am settling into my role as "Ate" (older sister), I have been able to do things like going to the local oval to jog with the girls. 
                                           
                                              Fun Run with elementary school, I went as one of the guardians

I have continued to have weekly baking socials with the girls, in addition to making a few birthday cakes a few weeks ago I helped Maggie, one of the high school students, and her classmate make an edible animal cell, using home baked brownies and icing, and using various candies for the different parts of the cell.  This baking has been a lot of fun, not cheap, but a lot of fun, different people help bake each time, the other week I ended up with 6 people helping me make peanut butter cookies... at one point I had the youngest literally stirring the flour, just to keep her occupied.  The cookies were delicious!!
This was one of the first things I thought of doing when I started making plans to come to Safe, but I think I underestimated the effect.  Every time I bake something, it feels like I am presenting the crown jewels, everyone gets a little giddy, they are always super thankful and eager to contribute.    I have to really thank my supporters here, as the only way I can afford to bake this much is because of your financial support and the prayer that keeps that support coming as needed.

                                                     Decorating chocolate cupcakes

I helped one of the girls and her classmate make an edible animal cell.  they got second place!

I have continued to help with homework, from writing addition problems out for the younger kids to helping one of the college students comprehend an English teaching on human behavior in decision making and helping with a research paper (twice as the first time around in somehow got deleted)   I find myself learning a lot! I also have an increased appreciation for my mother who didn't just spend an hour or two with us every day, but committed her whole day to our homeschooling.

I have checked several blood pressures, given advice for high or low readings.  I have even taught some of the girls how to take blood pressures.   I have also distributed essential oils for different ailments.  (never thought I would be the essential oil type)

One day, one of the former residences asked if I could paint her a painting for her house, I helped her finish one she started and painted another one of an alpine scene,  I found out later that she is actually a very good painter, ( probably better than me) but refuses to admit it, but we had fun painting together that afternoon.

I have had some good prayer time; the other week, we were having an incredible worship time and I was able to speak into one girls life.

I cooked and organized a Canadian Thanksgiving on the 11th.  on the menu: 2 chickens, stuffing, sweet potatoes, fried in butter and sugar, mashed potatoes, green beans, fried with onions, garlic and butter and of course we had pumpkin pie, which I made with squash as it was half the price of pumpkin.  Oh and rice.  everybody helped, and in the end we fed 28 people including kids.  everything got eaten up, even the stuffing which I didn't think would be popular since its kind of a weird dish, I mean I never thought about what an odd dish it was until I started describing it to people... "its bread, with sausage...and onions...and apples, all mixed together, put inside a chicken so it gets all soggy..." weird right?!  I'm telling ya, Next time you look at a foreign food and think how weird it is and how you can't imagine eating it...just think of stuffing.  Anyway, I digress, the point is I was amazed that it was consumed so fast, I never even got a second helping:)  The kids even liked the pie, which I was surprised by as most kids hate pumpkin pie but I had made little pumpkin tarts and put thick cream on top, and most of them were convinced they were cup cakes (since tarts aren't a thing here) so they automatically loved them...because who doesn't love cup cakes!  It was also my mom's recipe which is the best pumpkin pie recipe ever!! Ok I'm going to stop talking about food now.
                                         
                                             stuffing the chicken with Maggie! turkey is pretty expensive here so we opted for two chickens instead

                                               we fed 28 people!

The story of PJ
So remember how I mentioned i didn't have complete solitude at my house?  Well here's the story
Several weeks ago one of the staff members children found a brand new kitten literally on the streets.  He casually asked me if I wanted a cat, to which I replied, although I would like one it was not very practical for me to own one.  Then he promptly produced this white and grey fluffy squealing kitten which I later found out was about a week old.  well...I wasn't sure what to do, I had to decide whether to let him die or take him in,  Although I am an animal lover I am not an extreme animal lover which meaning I had the potential to let the creature pass into kitten heaven on his own, but as I held him crying in the palm of my hand  I couldn't quite do it... I had actually thought about the idea of taking in a cat or puppy while I am here but had decided against it as quickly as it came to mind.   But here was this little kitten looking at me, and he was hungry and sad, so I said I would feed him, I happened to have some powdered milk on hand, we found a lid and the staff member even found a dropper lying around, so I fed him, then I said I would keep him for the night, and then it was two nights, and then I took him to the vet to get him checked over, and asked if they knew of anyone who wanted a kitten or if there was a shelter somewhere, there wasn't.  Anyway, he is still with me.  I decided to name him PJ Perry after a kitten my aunt and uncle had, whom sadly got eaten by one of our dogs.  This might sound crazy, but I feel that God may have sent me PJ, I don't know for how long, but for now he has been a fun companion, and has actually contributed to the ministry, more than once I have had of the girls over and they are content to sit and play with him and then we visit.   The kids also love him as one can imagine....

The struggles

Some days are still really hard, I feel frustrated and useless but other days I feel like a missionary.  God has been teaching me lots, I have caught myself saying very often to myself "I just need to make a difference"  but God has been showing me that  I need to omit the "I" in that sentence, because its not about me making a difference, its about me being a vessel,  God is the one that makes the difference.  I then find that when I omit the "I" it gets harder to complain I can't say things like "I can't to this" or "I am never going to learn to this language" I end up just putting it before God and sai "okay You sent me here so help to follow."


I think the most interesting and challenging part about this period of my life is that it is less clear and direct than any other of my life chapters.  Everything I did from when I was 15 was to work towards  going to midwife school in the Philippines.  This time around, although I have a vague idea of a my calling, things are not as straightforward, and I believe that this is God's plan, He doesn't want me to see everything.  All He seems to be asking me is to just follow his steps one by one.  Any time I start to feel panicked about the lack of direction and plan in my life I sense His voice telling me to just trust Him and be where he has put me.  My guide is still the story of Peter walking on water.  As long as I keep my eyes on Jesus and not the waves I will be okay.
                               

Odds and Ends
I will be traveling tomorrow.  One of my friends there is getting married in Bugnay, and I am going to be one of her sponsors, (a position that they have here in the Philippines at weddings)  I am both excited and nervous.   Excited because I have missed Kalinga for so long, but also nervous, as I know things will be different and will feel different.  I also am so used to traveling and going  to events with Ellora so its going to feel different going to Kalinga solo.

Good news on the Midwife front, I think I have found a birthing home where I can volunteer at.  They are in Manila and are short staffed so could use an extra midwife.  I plan to meet with the director when I come back from Kalinga so am hoping that will go well.

The language...is well...I guess its more than it was a few weeks ago, but I still wish I was moving faster in my learning.  Sometimes I try and focus so hard on what people are saying, thinking that maybe if I focus enough the meaning of the words will magically appear in my head.  But I suppose languages were not learned in a day, unless it was in the day of the Tower of Babel.  The kids really are my best teachers as they make me speak the language, as well as one of the other residents who speaks about as much or less English as I do Tagalog.

The other week I started a campaign to raise money for a new stove/oven for safe, their current stove can only maintain one element at a time, which means only one thing can be cooked at a time.  It has a very small oven which tends to go out if you close the oven door to fast, the lighter is gone on it and it is starting to develop rust.  Anyway we almost have all the money raised! this is very exciting and both the staff and myself are amazed at the people who were willing to sacrifice and give a portion to this project.  In the next few days I and the staff will start the process of finding a suitable stove/oven.

Well,  I think I have gone on long enough I will move onto to prayer thankfulness and prayer requests

Thankfulness:
-Chesa is doing much better, she is still in Home care in Manila and hasn't had any seizures in a long time
-Relationships are building
-Getting an idea of my purpose
-God's provision
-The funds raised for the stove/oven

Prayer
-Language
-Continue to pray for Chesa
-School and assignments for the girls
-Ate Red's allergies, this might seem odd, but Ate Red has been having horrible allergies since returning from an IJM conference in the US, it has been making her very tired and hard of breathing when it gets really bad
-For the trip to Kalinga
-For Trust in God

I want to again thank all of my supporters, I have continued to feel overwhelmed with your support, this would not be possible without any of you.  I truly cannot  find words to thank you for all your prayers, encouragement and finances. 

Until Next time!
thesheepishmidwife

P.S. I am so sorry for all the spelling and typos I am sure this post has, I have gotten behind in my preparations for Kalinga and since I leave tomorrow I am in a terrible flurry.